have you ever

Discussion in 'the void' started by DeadFag, Jun 14, 2010.

  1. DeadFag

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    tried to fit in with vanilla society?

    and have it succeed?

    I'm curious about your feedback, and the points which made you relate to them and have their acceptance.

    It's something that has eluded me, and I wish to investigate it more.

    Considering you are all teenage outcast whores who at one stage just wanted to be normal :love::evil:
     
  2. Amity

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    I'm having horrendous flashbacks of middle school and trying to fit in now.
    Thanks Robbie.
     
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  3. Amity

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    In the here-and-now I'd quite like to know how not to be mental.
    But sometimes it's best to stick with what you know.
    :love:
     
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  4. dirtyplotte

    dirtyplotte sassamafras

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    honestly, no.

    i can do it for a while as long as i reveal nothing about my opinions, thoughts or life other than yes, i have a child, my husband is in pharmacy school (dumbasses love this one) and i am a nurse. anything other than that is unacceptable.

    im not upset about it anymore, though. it used to bother me. i tried really hard. i cleaned up my act, i cut my hair normal, i went to college and got a respectable degree, im really good at my job, i got a house in a proper kid raising neighborhood, and i still didn't blend.

    these days, i am trying hard to camouflage myself so that the mommies of seth's friends think it's ok to have their kids over and seth can have friends. i dont cover up my books, but i also don't put up some of the art that i love.

    life sucks this way.
     
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  5. jstar

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    i am vanilla society. i think.

    i don't think i have any big "acceptance" points though. doesn't everyone feel like an outcast always?
     
  6. dirtyplotte

    dirtyplotte sassamafras

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    i want this to be true. i was sort of going on the hope that it was true and i fucked it all up by saying something too personal. you know how i am...

    isnt your social anxiety a factor that separates you? or you feel separated? maybe its all social anxiety or not being well socialized for me, too, because ive certainly learned to not talk about stuff. do all people just not talk about stuff and pretend to be horrified by anything other than vanilla stuff?
     
  7. Abscess

    Abscess sth witchy

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    i've never fitted in and i've never tried to. i wouldn't know how to even if i wanted to.

    none of my tastes have ever been vanilla. it must be a dna thing or sth.

    i think there are millions and millions of people out there who want to escape from their vanilla lives, but they haven't got the guts and that's why outcasts get stick from them.
     
  8. trace

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    oh golly arent we all so extroverted. one from a million little spermy jizzums. is that not special enough

    whats so hard about it? people on the whole arent that bad. youre probably a lot more 'vanilla' than you think you are. people like talking about themselves. introverted or not. focus on that and you're opening doors.
     
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  9. Wildwoman

    Wildwoman Woman Talking to Death

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    Don't you live in a place that you've described as extremely crunchy?

    I feel much more like vanilla society than I used to. And I'm sure I am much more than I used to be, but also I feel like I've made a series of decisions that kind of reset normal. Even in some ways not going too far from where I'm from, because kids can often tend to be pretty conservative in a lot of ways, so some things just changed around me as all I did was get older. I've never lived in a place where you were expected to go to church regularly, although I know people who do that. I don't know anybody, really, who raises an eyebrow (at least to my face) about Chris & I not being married.
     
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    I am not really sure who is vanilla. I dunno, I have friends who are into normal stuff, just chart music and whatever but they're really odd in other ways. they're all good.

    Love the people, man. I actually say that in real life.

    or maybe I'm vanilla and I'm the one fitting in with all you.
     
  11. Insomnia

    Insomnia Part-time narcoleptic

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    I have never "tried" to fit in, but I've never tried to stand out either. I'm not at one with the majority of the Big Brother watching, football-loving, beer-drinking British people but I never find I can't get on with the people around me. I don't feel like an outcast, but I guess that is because I don't think that there is an accepted definition of "normal" or a place where all the "normal people" hang out leaving me a weird freak. Other people really aren't all that different. We are all sacks of meat, slowly digesting food into shit, whilst worrying about things.
     
  12. trace

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    hello im all three of these. call me mr 99 flake
     
  13. Insomnia

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    I like 99 flakes. SEE, you have common ground with everyone!
     
  14. Abscess

    Abscess sth witchy

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    being not vanilla doesn't make you any more special than everyone else.

    it's just a matter of taste isn't it? doing what you feel comfortable with?
     
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  15. rosaline

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    wtf is vanilla society. wtf. just cause you listen to hole doesnt mean youre crazy mental. i hate you. i bet you wear band t-shirts.
     
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  16. jstar

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    i think i know what you're talking about and i think you only managed to say something and weird out those particular people. who must be extra vanilla, kwim. i do think sexually though a LOT of people are more pent up than with other things and have extremely tight boundaries. so that's one area where you really have to know the people you're dealing with in terms of what facets of your sexuality you'd share.

    i think my social anxiety IS always feeling like an outsider. but i don't get it as much from hanging out with friends as i do in work situations and a lot of it is performance pressure. i freak out going to meetings where i think i am going to get put on the spot about something and not know the answer. god forbid....it's totally irrational on my part.

    so this is how vanilla i am:

    no tattoos, no weird hair colors
    i'm an engineer
    i'm married, two kids
    i own a house and have a car payment.

    as by the book as possible, kwim? but i have different groups of friends who all see different sides of me. like a chameleon :good: i have the 'good parent' friends who are as straight as they come. and then it ranges over to the friends i smoke and drink and go to strip clubs with. and everything in between. i mix with different types of people. yesterday we were out on our friends boat with 6 adults and 5 kids. and 4 of the adults smoked. i know lots of uptight parents who wouldn't dream of taking their kids on a boat with people smoking. so while i *appear* vanilla i have loose morals. and sexually - i am more guarded about things than i am with say, drinking.

    and even the people who appear totally vanilla aren't usually. my best friend is married to a vice principal and they are very white picket fence. but we smoke pot in his shed while the kids play upstairs. and drink whiskey in our coffee when we go camping. people usually have to LOOK vanilla for their jobs. and aren't completely.


    also - i do live in a crunchy area. but crunchy can be pretty vanilla too. they like to think they're all radical but they are mostly very uptight about everything.
     
  17. dirtyplotte

    dirtyplotte sassamafras

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    kansas vanilla is particularly brutal.

    erie, pa vanilla isn't all that bad. they are all used to people being out of work, kind of dirty lookin', they all drink and most smoke, huge motorcycle driving population. so this vanilla at least i dont stand out too much just by looking at me.

    but the kansas vanilla, man. it was really difficult. and im going back into the viper pit and am particularly sensitive baout this topic right now.

    it wasnt just that group of people. it's very clean cut, go to church, kids dont play with guns, watch football, kind of county. johnson county, that is. :stress:

    i wish i could move back to houston.
     
  18. dirtyplotte

    dirtyplotte sassamafras

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    im that vanilla! or i was until the house was sold. but i dont have tattoos or anything of the sort. no piercings nothing. im wiped clean and look very normal.

    and im socially anxious almost all of the time. if i could just feel comfortable in my own skin, i think my life would be lots better.
     
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    dirtyplotte sassamafras

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    i could have written this word for word... except i do want to discuss post modernity. not existentialism though!
     
  20. kwhatever

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    i'm pretty vanilla. with tattoos even.
     

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